01/20/2017 – Thoughts on Double Standards

Why is it that we hold a standard for others and yet we fail to hold ourselves to it?  This question crosses my mind daily when I see people doing things, acting in ways, or saying something they would attack if done by someone else.  The whole do unto others philosophy goes right out the window.  While I am not innocent of these situations or occurrences, I certainly try to learn from and improve upon the experiences.

My desire is to figure out a way to communicate these double standards to others when I see them in a positive way.  Is it best to be blunt and call a spade a spade or should we take the approach of asking questions that will shine a light on the double standard.  I have to assume it is not going to be a one size fits all approach, but I do think it is important to expose and educate when you notice a double standard taking place.

A few of the major ones I see daily would include:

  • How we drive – tailgate others.  Do we want people to drive like that behind us?  I doubt it.
  • The way we speak to one another.
  • Expecting people to drop what they are doing when want their attention.

The list could go on forever.  I will be doing my part to notice when I am failing and work to correct it, be more aware.  Also, to share with others when I notice it in them.  If we all make an effort we can make life much more enjoyable and limit the expectations not being met.  I guess like most problems, communication is at the root.  An obvious solution is to lower expectations, but I rather work towards lifting others up to the expectation.

 

 

01/12/2017 – Thoughts on Coaching

Have you ever wondered why …?

I had this thought on my way into the office today, “Why do so many of our goals fail to materialize?”  As I thought deeper on this subject I realized it was obviously more than a single reason behind this pattern of failure.  There is the problem of a  lacking will power, dedication, and motivation for many.  But there is also at times, a lack of skill.  As I continued to ponder, it hit me.  We lack the proper coaching or have none at all.

Once we get past the problem of getting started or taking the first step how often do we eventually give up or fall back into our old ways?  For most it happens far more frequently than we would like.  I would be willing to make a bet that a common factor in these failures is a lack of coaching.   We start a diet, but how many of us are nutritionists?  We start to exercise, but who among us are certified trainers?  And even if you are a certified trainer, it is not possible to see your full form in a squat without filming yourself and reviewing the problems in your form or technique.   My point that I fear I am belaboring is we all need a little help, i.e. a coach.

Sure we can all achieve our goals if we stick to it, but the time it takes to achieve a goal or desired outcome can drastically be reduced with the help of a good coach.  We all need coaching, every great athlete and most successful CEO’s or our political leaders have or continue to have a coach in their lives.  It is not enough to roll out an initiative with a single exposure to the goal.  All talk, no walk right?  Want to improve on your 3 point shots, foul shots, or lose some weight or learn sometime new like a language?  You need someone that has mastered these things to watch you and coach you where you need it along the way or you will never get where you are going or it will take you so much longer to get where you want to be.

In the business world I see this more than I would like and attribute the failures to a lack of coaching, training, and follow up.  When we put forth a new strategy, we do not train and coach the workforce to ensure success.  We explain what we want the result to be, but leave the employee to figure out the how.  I believe that with coaching anything is possible.  If you need change in any area of your life, seek out a great coach.

Quotes, Notes, & Ideas

Quotes:

“24 Months of eating shit to be able to eat caviar for the rest of your life” – Gary Vaynerchuk

“You’re supposed to take A Red Pill, not the whole bottle” – Michael Malice

“Education is what people do to you and learning is what you do to yourself” – Joi Ito

“You are not stuck in traffic.  You are traffic”

“Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it” – Jorge Santayana

Reply or Respond, do not React! – Unknown

Do not justify your goals or dreams, execute them. – Gary V

“If you’re dreams don’t scare you they are not big enough” – Ellen Johnson Sirleaf

Being an expert means being as little as one step ahead of someone else.

 

When trust is destroyed, it can be rebuilt only if the following two steps happen:
1) the trust-breaker admits the true values that caused the breach and owns up to them
2) the trust-breaker builds a solid track record of improved behavior over time.

It is important that students bring a certain ragamuffin, barefoot irreverence to their studies; they are not here to worship what is known, but to question it.

Notes:

education-without-the-state  Free eBook by Tom Woods.  This is a great eBook of the interviews Tom has had on his podcast.  If you have a child this is even more important to read.  6 small chapters of great information, total pages of reading ~ 45.

Does it make sense to hire for an open position that you have no real experience in?  Another way to ask this; would you want to have your financial analyst hire someone for the recruiting manager role?  Why have someone hire a marketing director if they themselves are not knowledgeable in that field?

Ideas:

Podcast menu in iPhone needs to be able to sort and categorize the podcasts you subscribe to.  Like iTunes, we need genre and groupings to separate thought and learning from entertainment.  Priorities on what you listen to and when.

Self Sabotage:  Stop Playing Catch Up – Start Playing Your A Game!

  1. Eliminate distraction
  2. Change environment
  3. Use timers for scheduled breaks
  4. 2 minute rule – if a task will take less than 2 minutes to complete just do it

Free Netflix or Hulu type of video streaming with ads every 10-15 minutes?  Like Netflix lite.

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THE FOLLOWING WAS AN EMAIL EXCHANGE WITH RUTH CHANG – http://ruthchang.net/

Hi Matthew,

Thanks for your note. I just heard the podcast – it got a bit garbled. Here are the 5 steps:

  1. Figure out what matters in the choice. 
  2. Assess the pros and cons of each alternative relative to what matters in the choice. 

Lather, rinse, repeat, and stop if one alternative rises to the top. 

This is where current thinking about decision-making stops. I add 3 more steps.

  1. Recognize that the alternatives are on a par and that you face a hard choice.
  2. Commit to one of the options. There is a long story here about what commitment is and how to do it. It’s not just telling yourself that you will go for the one. And desires — what you most want — isn’t important here. 
  3. As a consequence, you will make your identity – you can create reasons by committing, thereby making yourself the sort of person who has most reasons to go for X rather than Y. Someone else facing a similar sit might commit differently than you and thus make themselves into a different sort of person. Aside: it is also rational to DRIFT. This is intentionally choosing one of the alternatives without putting your will or agency behind it. Drifting also makes us who we are. 

That is the recipe in a nutshell! Or you can read about it in a popular book I’m in theory writing. 

All best wishes,

Ruth

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4/17/2017

Strengths – Not what you like to do, but what you are talented at.  What were you good at as a child?

Leadership, Courage, Planning, Helping, Creative, Observations, Curiosity …

Don’t spend time on weakness, double down on the strengths.

Give what grows.  You can’t give what you don’t have.  Trying to be something you’re not results in burnout.  Check feelings, no positive feedback?  Is it serving me?  Fueling the fire?  Do not be distracted by others success stories.  Their process is not your process.  Do not fear asking others what you are good at.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reading List

  • Steven Pinker
  • Ron Paul
  • Peter Schiff
  • Noam Chomsky
  • Ayn Rand
  • Nelson Nash
  • Nick Bostrom
  • Tim Ferriss
  • Sam Polk
  • Jeb Kinnison
  • Thomas Sowell
  • Johnathan Haidt
  • Eric Liu and Nick Hanauer – The Gardens of Democracy
  • Hans Hermann Hoppe
  • Henry Hazlitt
  • Sir Ken Robinson
  • Robert Caro
  • Christopher Voss
  • Good to the Core – John Blumberg
  • Shoe Dog
  • Ray Dalio
  • Walter issacson
  • Choose yourself – Jame Altucher
    The first 90 days – Michael watkins
    360 leader
    born digital
    grown up digital
    21st century skills
    “Moral Elevation” – Being uplifted by an act of uncommon goodness.

Fed Up: An Insider’s Take on Why the Federal Reserve is Bad for America Hardcover – February 14, 2017

Democracy: The God that Failed, by Hans-Hermann Hoppe. Just read it. Trust me on this.

The Quest for Community, by Robert Nisbet. Here is a graduate course in political philosophy. Except in this one, the state is not the glorious summit of civilization and the indispensable source of human flourishing. As the new edition explains, “Nisbet argued that the rise of the powerful modern state had eroded the sources of community—the family, the neighborhood, the church, the guild. Alienation and loneliness inevitably resulted. But as the traditional ties that bind fell away, the human impulse toward community led people to turn even more to the government itself, allowing statism — even totalitarianism — to flourish.”

The Left, the Right, and the State, by Lew Rockwell. Lew (who of course runs the indispensable LewRockwell.com) did the world an incalculable service with the founding of the Mises Institute, but he is grossly underrated as a thinker in his own right. He has extended Rothbardian thought in numerous ways, and has influenced my own thinking more than almost anyone in the world.

The Austrian Theory of the Trade Cycle and Other Essays. Features essays by Ludwig von Mises, F.A. Hayek, Gottfried Haberler, and Murray N. Rothbard. An effective introduction to the Austrian theory of the business cycle, which anyone who wants to understand the real causes behind boom and bust must know.

Egalitarianism as a Revolt Against Nature and Other Essays, by Murray N. Rothbard. The quality of the essays in this book is astounding. You will not think the same way ever again after reading “Anatomy of the State” and “War, Peace, and the State,” to name just two.

After you read these, I recommend the following:

A Theory of Socialism and Capitalism, by Hans-Hermann Hoppe. Hoppe’s books put everything together for me.

The Economics and Ethics of Private Property, by Hans-Hermann Hoppe. This book blew me away when I first read it. Its title makes it sound dull. It is one of the most intellectually exciting books I have ever read.

Man, Economy, and State: A Treatise on Economic Principles, by Murray N. Rothbard. This one, and the two that follow, are for the especially ambitious. This is a systematic exposition of Austrian economics. The sheer elegance of the Austrian system is on impressive display here.

Human Action: A Treatise on Economics, by Ludwig von Mises. (Some disagree with me, but I favor beginning with Rothbard before moving on to Human Action.)

Money, Bank Credit, and Economic Cycles, by Jesús Huerta de Soto. Here is the Austrian theory on money, banking, and business cycles, presented in systematic fashion, and compared with the Chicago and Keynesian alternatives. I have a friend who was so impressed by this book that he learned Spanish so he could pursue his Ph.D. under the author in Spain.

This list will be ever growing.

Think Small: The Surprisingly Simple Ways to Reach Big Goals

Completed List for 2017

  1. Animal Farm by George Orwell – Week 51 of 2016
  2. Blink by Malcolm Gladwell – Week 52 of 2016
  3. Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell – Week 1 of 2017
  4. What Has Government Done To Our Money? by Murray Rothbard – Week 2 of 2017
  5. The RQ Factor by Todd Bagley & Mike Brenhaug – Week 3 of 2017
  6. Education Without The State by Tom Wood – Week 4 of 2017
  7. Hegemony Or Survival by Noam Chomsky – Week 6 of 2017
  8. Economics in One Lesson, by Henry Hazlitt – 3/12/2017
  9. How an Economy Grows and Why It Crashes, by Peter Schiff – 3/16/2017
  10. The Revolution: A Manifesto, by Ron Paul – 3/23/2017 (Audible)
  11. Why Salespeople Fail…and what you can do about it!, by Sandler Training – 3/23/2017
  12. The Lucifer Effect: Understanding How Good People Turn Evil, by Philip Zimbardo – 4/30/2017
  13. The Time Paradox, by Philip Zimbardo and John Boyd – 5/06/2017
  14. The Road to Serfdom, by Friedrich Hayek – 5/21/2017 (Audible)
  15. Your Facebook Friends are Wrong About Health Care, by Tom Woods – 5/22/2017
  16. The Honorable Relationship Myth by John Lee  6/21/2017
  17. Subtle art of not Giving a F – M.M.
  18. Tipping Point – Gladwell
  19. The Sandler Rules
  20. Extreme Ownership – Jocko
  21. Start with Why – Sinek
  22. Leaders Eat Last – Sinek
  23. Give and Take – Grant
  24. Think Differently – Bible Study
  25. Originals – Grant
  26. The Charge – Burchard
  27. Option B – Sandberg
  28. Deep Work – Newport
  29. Originals – Grant
  30. David and Galieth – Gladwell
  31. PIG – American History – Thomas Woods

01/03/2017 – The First of 2017

With the new year upon us, I have decided to put down in the first blog entry of the year some of what I plan to do moving forward.  Hopefully this will provide some accountability and help me stay the course.

First and foremost to me is the goal of reading at a minimum of one book per week.  Currently I am reading Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell.  I am really enjoying it.  I finished Blink his second book the previous week.  I find that this is the best way for me to increase IQ and EQ by focusing on good writing and learning new things and ideas.

A few other items I will tackle in 2017 are not complaining, staying on top of Duolingo for Spanish and then moving into other courses, focusing on gratitude in all aspects of life, logging all events, and finally the ever popular fitness and nutrition.  I am excited for this year and look forward to a lot of personal growth.

  • Meditation
  • Protein at every meal
  • 30 minute minimum activity daily
  • Sit in silence daily
  • Language studies
  • Read daily
  • Add small things to the list once it is mastered

11/14/2016 – The Flip & The Flop

Donald Trump’s First Interview Since Winning The Election: Key Highlights And Full Transcript

I am somewhat shocked and perhaps that is my fault for believing Trump would follow through on the main points of his campaign.  Deciding that all of the sudden the Clinton’s are “good people” is what made me realize this guy is not going to do anything we needed him to do to stop the corruption and criminal activity in our government.  Running on the platform that they are criminals, which they are, and now deciding to let it go is not something I can tolerate.  It feeds the protesters more fuel to add to the fire.  Trump also makes the statement that he condemns harassment of minorities?  Why does the word minorities need to be in that statement?  Should not we condemn harassment in any form it takes?

I have lost any hope I had that Trump would shake up the government and get them closer to honesty and following the constitution.  I did not vote for him, but that is not important.  What is important to me is that these paper politicians hold to their principles which I would have to assume are based in growing their bank accounts or status of power.

10/31/2016 – The Mouth Breather Bungle

Do you ever wonder why certain folks breath with an open mouth?  Obviously this can or will happen when someone is in need of oxygen, but for it to be the go to option for taking in oxygen makes me think there is a problem.  I am against it for various reasons.

  • Looks ridiculous
  • Concern for things entering the mouth you rather keep out
  • Concern for things coming out of the mouth that should stay in

Do you know a mouth breather?  If so help me to gain a better understanding of the why.

10/26/2016 – Bounce Walkers

One of my many observations that I cannot find a real answer to is the mystery of the bounce walkers.  The questions I ask myself are:

  • Is this conscience or conscienceless behavior?
  • Are these bounce walkers aware of the bounce?
  • Have these bounce walkers always walked this way?
  • Will these people get offended if I approach them with these questions?

I would like to better understand why this happens.  It always catches my eye and I cannot look away when I see the bounce.  Google searches result in some medical reasons this might happen, but I do not like that explanation.  I want to hear from those that bounce.

 

10/22/2016 – John Wooden…Where Have I Been?

So I was introduced to John Wooden and his greatness on a Tony Robbins podcast that played an older interview Tony had with John.  To say I was amazed would not do it justice.  This humble old man was spitting out profound knowledge that captivated me immediately.  To be honest, it is nothing I haven’t heard before, but the delivery and tone left me wanting more.

So first thing I did today was check out his TED talk.  Another great speech.  This one focused primarily on the difference between Winning and Success.  I am all in now.  I have been this way before after going to Tony Robbins events or reading some good material that opens the mind to new ways of thinking, but I really feel the need to stay the course.  I have printed out the John Wooden pyramid of success and plan on making reviewing it a daily habit.